Anonymous asked: So heres the deal. I dont know how I identitfy, Like its all up in the air, like, i know a label isnt always necessary but, id like one...just for things to feel concrete for a while. I am biologically female. But i feel like a boy, But then, again, i dont hate the fact that I have breasts or a vag. And as far as sexuality, i love girls, but id be lying if i said i was never into a guy, and everything is so bloody confusing and ultimately depressing... Do you have any advice or whatever?
Hey anon. First off, i want to let you know that the term “biologically female” (or male) is really not okay. What I think you mean though, is that you are DFAB (designated female at birth.)
You can totally be a boy and be cool with your breasts and your vagina! You would definitely not be the only one. Feeling like a boy does not have to mean feeling dysphoric about your body. You don’t have to fit any normative trans narratives to be a boy. If you feel like a boy, you are a boy.
This is probably not the answer you want, but I can’t decide your identity for you. That is up to you, and I think you know that. You might be a queer trans boy, or a pansexual genderqueer boy? I’m uncomfortable giving other people identifying terms, but it sounds like maybe that’s what you’re looking for. One of the reasons I personally love the terms “queer” and “genderqueer” is that they are so broad, and my gender expression is always changing, and who I’m more attracted to changes too. And you can always always change your mind about the terms you like to use to describe your gender and your sexuality at any time. Identities can be really fluid and that is totally okay.
I’m here to talk off anon if you’d like to have a conversation. <3
